The child’s first day with the family. Read the materials from the training course for adopting parent candidates about preparing for the child’s relocation, and the guidance for the first day. The child’s first day at their new home should be quiet, without any loud celebrations. The child should spend the day with their adoptive parents, without extra guests or relatives. There should be an unobtrusive tour around the house or apartment, with the main rooms and places for the child’s belongings shown. Gourmet meals should be avoided, and the child should be allowed to choose what to eat. The evening is the perfect time to share information about their new family and look through family photos. The most important thing is to create the feeling of safety and comfort, without paying excessive attention to the child.

Complete the “Honeymoon” stage. This period generally takes place at the beginning of the adoption. Both the child and the adoptive parents (and other family members, such as siblings, grandparents) go through a period of mutual delight and idealisation. Joy, optimism, and hope for the future are typical of this period. At this stage a child might feel as an invited guest to their new parents’ house.

The materials from the training course about adaptation and its stages will be of use at this stage, until relations with the child are stabilised.

Complete the “No longer a guest” stage. This is an important transition. A deeper, more realistic mutual understanding between the child and their new family begins at this stage. The initial idealised perceptions become more realistic. The child begins to test the boundaries and rules set by the parents. This may take the form of disobedience, testing the parents’ patience, or defending their own desires.

Complete the “Getting along” stage. At this stage, the child may open up and show their genuine emotions and responses. There may be displays of lack of confidence and fear, as well as deepening attachment to family members. The child begins to perceive their new family as being permanent and safe. They also adapt to the new rules, traditions, and daily routines.

Complete the “Stabilisation of relationships” stage. This stage is characterised by deeper trust and safety. The child feels more stable and safer in their relationships in the new family. Family routine and habits are becoming more specific and stable. Family conflicts and misunderstandings are resolved in a more constructive manner, which helps to develop steady and healthy relationships. Conclusions about the adaptation process can already be drawn at this stage.